Dear Dads & Friends,
HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!! As a father of five (plus two other sons and two other daughters who married my kids) and grandfather of eighteen this is a special day for me. It reminds me of what a special joy and privilege it is to be a Dad.
But being a Dad in our modern culture is an especially challenging endeavor…can I get an “Amen!”? Our culture has made dads—and for that matter, men—unnecessary, irrelevant, or even worse, harmful. If you will honestly look at how men are portrayed in our society you will see that I am not exaggerating in this assessment. This definitely adds to the challenges of fatherhood in our world today.
In the book, “What Husbands Wish Their Wives Knew About Men” Patrick Morley shares insights into manhood, marriage and parenting.
Here are 6 things that men wished their families knew about them…
- Marriage and being a dad is a good thing.
- All relationships are difficult, especially marriage and fatherhood, but love is the glue that can hold us together
- Virtually all men believe that they are, or have been, difficult to live with at times, yet he wants to make up for this.
- Most men really do want to do the right thing. Men deeply love their wives and kids. Along the way they have bought into a few ideas that knocked them off balance, but their hearts are good.
- Men want their families to understand, “What I Know I Learned From My Dad.” This may be the most significant thing to understand about men. Whether their father was a wonderful man of God, or was abusive, or absent, he learned how to be a dad from his “dad.”
- One motive compels men like few others. It is foundational, perpetual, and insatiable: A man’s need for his dad to be proud of him.
My Dad taught me many things about my Heavenly Father…
–He was powerful yet gentle.
–He was bold yet kind.
–He was tough yet fair.
–He was serious yet fun-loving.
–He was innovative yet faithful.
–He was strict yet full of mercy and forgiveness.
–He was fierce yet completely loving.
THE SCRIPTURES TEACH US HOW TO BE A DAD…The Bible teaches us how to be the fathers God has designed us to be. Here are some ways dads can emulate our Heavenly Father found in Psalm 103:
5 He fills my life with good things. My youth is renewed like the eagle’s!
6 The Lord gives righteousness and justice to all who are treated unfairly.
8 The Lord is compassionate and merciful, slow to get angry and filled with unfailing love.
9 He will not constantly accuse us, nor remain angry forever.
10 He does not punish us for all our sins; he does not deal harshly with us, as we deserve.
11 For his unfailing love toward those who fear him is as great as the height of the heavens above the earth.
13 The Lord is like a father to his children, tender and compassionate to those who fear him.
17 But the love of the Lord remains forever with those who fear him. His salvation extends to the children’s children (Psalm 103:5, 6, 8-11, 13, 17)
From psalm 103 we can learn that A godly father:
–Fills my life with good things
–Treats me fairly
–Is compassionate and merciful
–Quickly forgives me
–Disciplines me in love
–Gives me tender care
–Loves me unconditionally
–Never leaves me
So on the day we honor our dads I’m so glad we have a Father in heaven who models fatherhood to us so that we can learn how to be Dads leading our children to become healthy, well-adjusted, productive men and women of God.
Onward honoring our Father,